for every time I get asked:
- How's your adoption going?
I would be rich. The question, however well meaning, is inaccurate - I'm fostering!
Then again, if I got a nickel lately for every time lately I've been asked:
- When are you getting your first foster child?
I would still be rich!
It's honestly been a question I needed to address here but I've been dragging my feet. Hurry up and wait is the name of the game these days.
I was so confident at the beginning of July. I had just finished my second home study and been told that my file would be 1 week at the local office and then sent off to the Children's Network, where it would be another 3ish weeks. That put me at getting my license early to mid-August, easily. Since I had a trip to Kenya (leaving tomorrow!) I was confident telling people I would get my first child in early September.
I should have known better. You always hear the stories about it taking forever, delays, unexpected paperwork, lost paperwork, expired paperwork - but you listen to the stories from those who it took a month from home study to placement. You hope and you make a timeline - one that makes sense, one that works for you.
But life is messy. And God's timing is very different than my own. Right now I am sitting at 7 (seven!) weeks of my file being at the local office. Even if it is sent early next week, I'm still looking at least another month.
So now I have some decisions to make. Because it's not neat and tidy in my mind anymore. Here are the points I'm pondering:
- I have a conference at the end of October and I had originally thought taking a child with me would be doable, but because of short timing and a few international stops it's not a possibility. I don't want to get a child and then turn around just a week or two later and leave them for a week.
- Rachel's wedding in Indiana at Thanksgiving time. I will be going regardless. Will I have enough time to get it squared away for me to take a child with me? Will I need to get respite care instead?
- Christmas. Hopefully less of an issue. I will hopefully have enough time to square all of this away.
A few days ago I was sure that the decision would be to wait until after the New Year to begin. Then, a few discussions later, maybe after the October conference. Some have suggested that I do respite care (giving care for foster kids when other foster parents need to travel or a break) until the conference or until the end of the year. I'm mixed on that right now. A huge part of me just wants to start. For real start. Not a few days in and a few days out. But there is a need.
So I have a lot to pray about and I also just have to wait and see when my license actually comes.
Tomorrow I leave for Kenya to love on some kids. I'm praying that my home is in one piece when I return (please be nice, Hurricane Isaac).
After that, who knows?! I'll keep you all posted.